Chivalry 101
May 13, 2009
Chivalry has long since been regarded as something of a lost art form that represents more of a childhood nostalgia. Something inherent to the days when fairy tales inspired young boys to become dragon slaying knights. In fact, it seems in the more recent days it has been all but forgotten. So as chivalry possibly breaths its terminal breath, lets explore the essence of its once vicarious life. That which turned boys into men, and men into Gentelmen.Gentlemen (in training) should follow these additional rules when in the presence of a lady. Chivalry may be on life support, but it is not dead yet. Be one of the few to keep this flame burning for many years to come.
Always open doors
This is perhaps the most basic rule of male etiquette out there. It is also one of the easiest to follow so you have no reason to forget it. Whether she is about to enter your car, restaurant, club, or anyplace with a door, you should always hold it open. If there are many doors, then hold them open one after the other.
Put on her coat
Always help a lady put on her coat or overgarment. This is a simple but powerful action.
Help with her seat
If an unaccompanied lady is sitting next to you, it is important that you help her be seated by pulling her chair out for her and gently pushing it back into place, with the lady seated of course.
Give up your seat
If a lady arrives at the table and there are no available seats, you should stand up and offer yours to her.
Stand at attention
Always stand when a lady enters or exits the room. This rule has been somewhat relaxed, so you can stand upon entrance but remain seated upon exit. Nonetheless, if you can do both, you should.
Give her your arm
When escorting a lady (that you know) to and from social events, you should offer her your arm. This is a little more intimate, but serves well when walking on uneven ground -- especially if she's wearing high heels.
Ask if she needs anything
This is one that most guys already do, but helps complete the gentleman in all of us nevertheless. When at social events, make sure to ask the lady if you can get her something to drink (or eat, depending on the event). Show her that you care about her comfort and needs.
Gentlemen, if I may call you that, these are the rules of etiquette you should observe in everyday life. Elevate yourself above the rabble and display the mannerisms of a true gentleman. The world will appreciate such a rarity and your career will most definitely benefit from your good manners and savoir-faire.
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1 comments:
Good manners and respect are always good things for anyone from anyone.
However, this particular idea of Chivalry that this article suggests that if you do not act like this, you are "rabble" and inferior.
I will always treat my woman right. I will go out of my way to help her when she needs or wants it. However, I don't live the rich white lifestyle of this kind of "gentleman." I cannot afford it, nor do I live in the high-class white culture.
If this means I am rabble, so be it. I am terribly sorry I cannot be a rich white guy. However, as long as someone treats others well and with respect, I don't care how they are dressed or whether they stand up or sit down when someone walks in. I think this is the better path. You can have your Ralph Lauren polos.
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